Up to now, my thoughts regarding Baby Z have revolved around two main topics:
1. How much delivery is going to hurt. (OMG OMG OMG.)
2. Putting together our baby registry (and making sure that we have everything that we need come D-DAY).
I’ve given no thoughts whatsoever to actually taking care of Baby Z until this week, when I visited my friend Sarah at the hospital and held a newborn for the first time (that I can recall in the past five years).
And man…babies are SMALL. And fragile! And scary!
My friend’s baby boy weighed 7 lbs and 7 ounces, which I’ve read is an average weight for infants these days. Prior to holding him, 7 lbs and 7 ounces seems like…a good chunk of meat. Well, that may true for pork chops, but it’s totally not for babies! I was surprised by how utterly little and light he was…and how fragile! His head was still soft because his skull bones haven’t grown together and his neck muscles were still too weak to support his head. It was basically like holding eight pounds of Play-Doh in my arms.
Which brings me to my point of…how can I possibly be trusted to bring one of these home in a few months without, I dunno, parental supervision or something?! I’m one of the clumsiest people I know! Sometimes I trip over absolutely nothing, and I’ve blindly walked into more door screens than I care to admit. Permanently being responsible for a small, helpless, fragile infant seems…overwhelming.
Anyone want to take Baby Z and give him back to me when he’s able to protect himself from his mama?
The reason why I haven’t been posting as much on here is because for the past two weeks, my life has been consumed with putting together Baby’s Z registry.
O-M-G here’s another thing that people don’t tell you about pregnancy: PUTTING TOGETHER A BABY REGISTRY IS FREAKING STRESSFUL AND EXHAUSTING. This was way harder than putting together our wedding registry – which was actually fun because we basically ran around Bloomingdales with the scanner gun and went crazy scanning things that we don’t actually need – such as a jade peacock decorative bowl.
NOT the case with a baby registry! Before you can even get started, you have to figure out what it is that babies actually need. This part is not too bad, because you can search for baby checklists online, or most baby stores (Buy Buy Baby, Babies R Us, etc) give you a checklist of “baby essentials” that you can refer to as you shop. But once you have the list, you have to figure out what all the different terms mean – what’s the difference between footies and onesies? Swaddle blankets or swaddle sacks? Pajamas or wearable gowns?
Once you’ve got the terminology and definitions down, then the REALLY hard part is figuring out which brands and type and quantity you want of each item. How many burp cloths do I need? Which brand of swaddle blankets? Cotton or organic? What kind of crib mattress? What type of stroller? What kind of baby monitor/humidifier/infant car seat…?
Thank god for the internet and good friends with babies. I’ve learned the past few weeks that while it may take a village to raise a child – the same adage also applies to preparing for a child. My friend Amanda gave me this amazing baby checklist in an excel document that she had created when she had her first child, which included her notes on the type, brand, and quantity she recommends for each item, along with her own personal experience with each item and how useful they are and their longevity (e.g. How long can you use a bassinet? When do you need to get a highchair?). Amazing.
In any case – it’s done (sort of)! Yay! This is by no means an exhaustive list of everything since we’re getting some things from friends and purchasing other things ourselves, but this is our main wish list of things for Baby Z 🙂
Family and friends – we’re registered at Buy Buy Baby (click here), and you can search for it either under my name or J’s name! J and I (and Baby Z) thank you very, very much in advance 🙂
This morning J and I went in for Baby Z’s second anatomy scan and were treated to our son’s first 3-D images! It was an incredible experience. He’s still a skinny guy weighing in at approximately 12 ounces, but he’s already doubled in size since his last scan four weeks ago!
Call me crazy, but I’m pretty sure that I’m growing my husband’s clone in my belly. This face looks awfully familiar!
I particularly love the last shot of him giving us a thumbs up sign, as if to say: “All is well Mom and Dad! See you in four months!”
I don’t think it’s possible for me to love him even more than I already do.
P.S. Baby Z is probably going to hate me later for posting this, but this photo is so abstractly cool that I’m thinking about framing it for his nursery 🙂 It’s a picture of his manly parts. Heh heh.
your baby’s the size of a pomegranate!
At 10.5 inches and about 12.7 ounces, he’s big enough now that you’ve probably been feeling his movements. You may soon feel like he’s practicing martial arts as hisinitial fluttering movements turn into full-fledged kicks and nudges. You may also discover a pattern to his activity as you get to know him better. He is also starting to swallow a bit of amniotic fluid each day (for nutrition, hydration, and to practice digesting), so he eats whatever’s on your menu — and gets to put those developing taste buds to good use. So go ahead and nosh on those nachos (or crunch those crudités): Your baby may develop a taste for them when he’s older.
(Source: What To Expect and The Bump)
I can’t believe Baby Z is 21 weeks old today! It’s incredible how fast time is flying by – and even more incredible how unprepared J and I are to be parents! We are dedicating this weekend to some much-needed baby prep, so don’t be alarmed if you don’t hear from me until next week! On Saturday, we’re heading to Buy Buy Baby to put together our baby registry and check out some gliders and strollers (even though I’m pretty much set on the Uppababy Vista, J still needs some convincing….). On Sunday, we’re basically moving our entire study area in our apartment into a month-to-month storage unit, since we’re converting our study into Baby Z’s nursery for now.
The silver lining at the end of this busy weekend is that we will see Baby Z’s face for the first time in 3D bright and early on Monday morning at 8am! This is probably the first time that either of us have ever looked so forward to a Monday and the start of the new (work) week.